Lesley - you are absolutely right! I don't mind you saying this at all! I suppose it was flattering that little bear was with OH when he had his meltdown, as how dare his mother not be around, even though his father was sharing a Dr Who with him!

I think it is just one of those things - no matter how I play it I will feel guilty. So I keep giving him cuddles and staying firm if I am doing something. All any of us can do is our best.

And I really admire anyone who has four littlies and enough sanity to still type!